Non-Judgemental, But I Judge Myself

I often tell people to be kind to themselves.
I tell them not to be too hard on their mistakes.
I say things like “give yourself grace” or “you’re doing the best you can.”
And I mean it. I truly do.

But sometimes I catch myself doing the exact opposite.

I replay my past mistakes like a loop.
I question my worth when I don’t meet my own expectations.
I speak to myself in ways I would never speak to someone I love.

It’s strange, isn’t it?
How we can offer compassion to everyone else
but struggle to give even a drop of it to ourselves.

There’s this quiet voice in me that says
“You should know better”
or
“Why haven’t you figured this out by now?”
Even when I’m trying my best.

That voice doesn’t yell. It whispers.
But the whispers can feel heavy.

I’ve come to realise something.
Being non-judgemental isn’t just about how we treat others.
It’s also about how we treat ourselves.

We need to learn to sit with our flaws without shame.
We need to forgive ourselves without delay.
We need to allow ourselves to grow without fear of being imperfect.

So I’m learning to speak to myself with more kindness.
To pause when I feel the urge to self-criticise.
To remind myself that I am human.
And that is enough.

If you’re like me—kind to others but harsh on yourself—
maybe this is your reminder too.

You deserve the same grace you give so freely. Yes, you do.

Bye! See ya next week.